I cry if I want to

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'crying doesn't indicate that you're weak, since birth it has been a sign that you're alive'

Why is it that we apologize for breaking down and cry?
Why is it that people (men) say don't cry, when you're are already crying?

For me personally I believe we have to be 'strong', don't show any weaknesses.
But define strong.

adjectivestronger [strawng-ger, strong-] 
1.having, showing, or able to exert great bodily or muscular power;physically vigorous or robust:
"a strong boy."
2. of great moral power, firmness, or courage:
"strong under temptation."

Well, no dictionary will ever say crying is weak.
Maybe it is not about being strong, but not wanting to feel naked and vulnerable.
But that's the force of being strong guys.
Showing that you can be vulnerable, and not afraid to be naked.
You make room for the joy and healing by crying. It is releasing the tension, and sad (or happy) emotions to find that balance again between being happy and sad from time to time.

So don't hold back, don't be afraid of what someone else might think.
We all have are own realities about: "to cry or not to cry".
But when someone is already crying or going to, don't tell them that they can't or don't have to.
Because they do have to.
You don't want anybody to tell you to stop expressing yourself right? Especially because it is what you need at that moment and you are not harming anyone.
It is a completely normal phenomenon and nothing weak about it.

I will show you my tears AND my smile.

To me it makes more sense that you do feel weak if you're not able to cry and talk.
And being scared of showing your true emotions by holding it all in and bottle everything up.
Nothing strong about that.
Those tensions are coming out, one way or another. And if you refuse to cry or talk, believe me they will not find a pleasant way of showing up.

So cry, talk and be naked, especially to your loved ones!
And your mind will get back to rational and peaceful thinking.

When was the last time you cried?

8 comment(s):

  1. This is true. :)
    Holding back actually makes things more difficult and ourselves more depressed..

  2. This is a great post. I really like how you talked about being vulnerable, very powerful. I know why guys say "Don't cry." Because they don't know how to help, and sometimes we need to say something. I know after 28 years of marriage, just holding my wife when she is crying is more important than words.

    I enjoy your writing, and I look forward to hearing more from you, that is why I am following you.

    1. Thank you Thomas, so appreciated! Especially for showing insight into the male perspective. I know men look at things from a how can I solve this kinda view. We can learn a lot from each other. See you around! And thanks again.

  3. Great pots! So true..I never think about that before.. thanks for sharing

    1. Thank you!
      And so nice to read that I could give you a bit of insight.


  4. Thank you for a considered and thought-provoking post. It's interesting that people sometimes refer to having 'a good cry', meaning we need it sometimes and feel better afterwards.

    It's really nice to visit your blog again and your photos are lovely as always.

    Saba x


    1. Thank you so much Saba!

      Yeah I really believe in the rain and sunshine,as in smiling and crying. They can't exist without eachother. It keeps us in balance.


  5. You're so welcome! What you said is indeed true. It's difficult to avoid life's extremes. But at least you're using your blog to talk openly about it, and that's a step in the right direction. :)

    Happy Friday!

    Saba x




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