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'crying doesn't indicate that you're weak, since birth it has been a sign that you're alive'Why is it that we apologize for breaking down and cry?
Why is it that people (men) say don't cry, when you're are already crying?
For me personally I believe we have to be 'strong', don't show any weaknesses.
But define strong.
2. of great moral power, firmness, or courage:
"strong under temptation."
Well, no dictionary will ever say crying is weak.
Maybe it is not about being strong, but not wanting to feel naked and vulnerable.
But that's the force of being strong guys.
Showing that you can be vulnerable, and not afraid to be naked.
You make room for the joy and healing by crying. It is releasing the tension, and sad (or happy) emotions to find that balance again between being happy and sad from time to time.
So don't hold back, don't be afraid of what someone else might think.
We all have are own realities about: "to cry or not to cry".
But when someone is already crying or going to, don't tell them that they can't or don't have to.
Because they do have to.
You don't want anybody to tell you to stop expressing yourself right? Especially because it is what you need at that moment and you are not harming anyone.
It is a completely normal phenomenon and nothing weak about it.
I will show you my tears AND my smile.
To me it makes more sense that you do feel weak if you're not able to cry and talk.
And being scared of showing your true emotions by holding it all in and bottle everything up.
Nothing strong about that.
Those tensions are coming out, one way or another. And if you refuse to cry or talk, believe me they will not find a pleasant way of showing up.
So cry, talk and be naked, especially to your loved ones!
And your mind will get back to rational and peaceful thinking.